Life Strategies

Beyond The Pain

Beyond The Pain Poem By Shahina Lakhani   I prayed for a man to be my friend my protector   Instead you gave me solitude and tenacity   The solitude was for me to see   All that I have refused to see   All my life I have turned a blind eye   To [...]

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Living Beyond The Bounds of Co-dependence And Independence (Part II)

Living Beyond The Bounds of Co-dependence And Independence (Part II) Shahina Lakhani In the last post as we played with the idea of independence and Co-dependence we found out that both are like two sides of the same coin. A victim who is co-dependent may become a survivor who believes in total independence and a [...]

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Living Beyond The Bounds of Co-dependence And Independence (Part I)

Living Beyond The Bounds of Co-dependence And Independence (Part I) Shahina Lakhani Growing up in Pakistan, Indian and Pakistani love songs were a part of everyday life for me. Most songs had an underlying message of, "If you are happy I am happy and if you are sad I am sad." Being the romantic that [...]

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Is Your Life As Good As It Gets?

Is Your Life As Good As It Gets? Shahina Lakhani Have you ever asked yourself, "What if this (my life) is as good as it gets?" While surfing the channels last night, I came across the movie "As good as it gets".  In the movie one of the characters asks the above question. Hope is [...]

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Leaving Your Mark In The World

Leaving Your Mark In The World Shahina Lakhani I love watching series finales, especially of the old family oriented shows. The reason I love watching these series finales is that often they capture the true essence of life transitions.One such show is Growing Pains.  Often when we are faced with transitions in life, we have [...]

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How To Stop Bullies In Their Tracks

How To Stop Bullies In Their Tracks Shahina Lakhani Growing up as an introverted, quiet child who was bullied, I often felt alone, neglected and caged in. I could run away or fight back when absolutely necessary. However, I had a hard time sharing my story. I kept to myself, often pretending that nothing in [...]

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How To Be An Empowered Advocate For Those You Love When The Societal Trend Rewards Fear Mongers

How To Be An Empowered Advocate For Those You Love When the Societal Trend Rewards Fear Mongers Shahina Lakhani Have you ever wondered what makes you an empowered advocate for yourself and the ones you love? In my case, it was something I had to learn. To explain what I mean, I have to give [...]

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Finding Perfection In An Imperfect World

Finding Perfection In An Imperfect World Shahina Lakhani Human beings are perfectly imperfect. In fact, we are so imperfect we cringe at the thought of imperfection. We demand perfection from life and from others. And, when that demand is not met we pout, complain or raise hell. The fear of imperfection shows up one of [...]

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Life Is A Marathon

Life Is A Marathon  Shahina Lakhani A a couple days ago I was watching a movie where one of the character who had hit a rough patch with her spouse and her family said, "Marriage is a marathon and it is hard." She goes on to say that despite that she wanted to be a part [...]

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Women Empowering Women

Women Empowering Women Shahina Lakhani March 8, 2012 is international women's day. Today's article is about empowerment of women and the role each individual woman can play in empowering each other. A recent article in The Huffington Post by author Willa Shalit; an author, TV producer and founder of Fair winds Trading inc, talks about [...]

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